net/mlx5: hw counters: Replace IDR+lists with xarray

Previously, managing counters was a complicated affair involving an IDR,
a sorted double linked list, two single linked lists and a complex dance
between a non-periodic wq task and users adding/deleting counters.

Adding was done by inserting new counters into the IDR and into a single
linked list, leaving the wq to process the list and actually add the
counters into the double linked list, maintained sorted with the IDR.

Deleting involved adding the counter into another single linked list,
leaving the wq to actually unlink the counter from the other structures
and release it.

Dumping the counters is done with the bulk query API, which relies on
the counter list being sorted and unmutable during querying to
efficiently retrieve cached counter values.

Finally, the IDR data struct is deprecated.

This commit replaces all of that with an xarray.

Adding is now done directly, by using xa_lock.
Deleting is also done directly, under the xa_lock.

Querying is done from a periodic task running every sampling_interval
(default 1s) and uses the bulk query API for efficiency.
It works by iterating over the xarray:
- when a new bulk needs to be started, the bulk information is computed
  under the xa_lock.
- the xa iteration state is saved and the xa_lock dropped.
- the HW is queried for bulk counter values.
- the xa_lock is reacquired.
- counter caches with ids covered by the bulk response are updated.

Querying always requests the max bulk length, for simplicity.

Counters could be added/deleted while the HW is queried. This is safe,
as the HW API simply returns unknown values for counters not in HW, but
those values won't be accessed. Only counters present in xarray before
bulk query will actually read queried cache values.

This cuts down the size of mlx5_fc by 4 pointers (88->56 bytes), which
amounts to ~3MB / 100K counters.
But more importantly, this solves the wq spinlock congestion issue seen
happening on high-rate counter insertion+deletion.

Signed-off-by: Cosmin Ratiu <cratiu@nvidia.com>
Signed-off-by: Tariq Toukan <tariqt@nvidia.com>
Link: https://patch.msgid.link/20241001103709.58127-4-tariqt@nvidia.com
Signed-off-by: Jakub Kicinski <kuba@kernel.org>